Finding Family in Fredrik Backman’s My Friends

Not since Amor Towle’s Lincoln Highway have I found myself so emotionally drawn into a story about teenagers, a period of one’s life when impulse control in the prefrontal cortex of the brain is still in development. Fredrik Backman’s new novel, My Friends, is a testament to the beauty and the beast of being a teenager and the significant impact family and friends can have on young souls.

The heart of the story takes place during two years in the teenaged lives of four inseparable friends: Ted, Joar, Ali and the Artist. Bound by their brokenness, they are tied to each other with an unconditional love that provides a security net for each and every one of them. Backman brilliantly pulls you into the heart and soul of these damaged kids and gives the reader a front row seat into the well-meaning but not well thought out shenanigans that they get themselves into. Woven through the hijinks is an emotional and philosophical thread that intensifies the deep connection between the teens, deepening the sense of character connection for the reader.

This is a book that will stay with me for some time. So many interwoven themes … love, forgiveness, self-acceptance, courage, loyalty, trust, wisdom. While I wouldn’t have wanted to have lived in their shoes, I admit to being a little envious of the incredible family these kids built with each other.

Nancy C.
Library Assistant, John M. Harper Branch

Nancy has worked at the John M. Harper Branch as a Library Assistant for over 11 years. Her best days are when she can introduce readers, both young and not-so-young, to new authors/series. She feels like a kid in a candy store at the library, always amazed at the new finds that she discovers. She loves the wide selection of movies/TV series and has done a good number of the amazing puzzles that are in the collection. Nancy sings in a local choir and hits the stage with a theatre production company in New Hamburg. She is an avid reader, gardener, golfer, and newly back to skiing after a 30-year hiatus.